At 23 I always find myself thinking; am I behind where I should be? Should I be worried I don’t have my dream career yet? OMG we went to school together and she’s married with kids! It’s a viscous cycle of self doubt and the unknown. Some are travelling the world and ‘finding themselves’ while I’m just over here trying to get the extra hours at work to pay my bills and have a couple of holidays that don’t break the bank. I think it’s important to share these thoughts because let’s face it, social media is the sugar coated version of everyone’s life.
Our early twenties are all about transformation, transitioning and learning how to be an adult. I’m the first to admit I think I’m always right, but I bet when I turn 30 I’ll be shaking my head thinking “oh Beth you were so wrong…” But that’s what our early twenties are all about, figuring life out and making stuff up along the way.
It’s sooo easy to do but once you stop comparing your life to other peoples you will be so much happier. Just because others may be landing dream jobs straight out of university, travelling the world, buying their first home or getting married doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Focus on you. What you want and what you’re ready for should be your main focus. And always remember to be happy for other people’s successes. Congratulate them or buy a card to let them know they’re awesome. (I’m a big card lover/hoarder)
Try not to over-analyse every situation because sometimes it’s not about you. In your early twenties it’s inevitable you’re going to take things personal but don’t waste your time on it. Move on.
The biggest decision in life that will shape you is who you choose to associate with. Choose well and build positive relationships. You’re not going to see your friends as often as you’d like with adult stuff getting in the way. Nurture the friendships you care about and put the effort in!
This year I have stepped out of my comfort zone more times than ever before and let me tell you, it feels great. Even if it’s something small you should go for it. All the small victories add up and your confidence will show.
Don’t follow the crowd. Don’t go out if you don’t want to. It’s easy to say no, forget FOMO. You’re not going to miss out if it’s something you didn’t want to do in the first place. On the other hand, if you want to do something, get up and do it. Go and have fun the way you want to.